The phrase, "live your life with no regrets," has been taking over my thoughts recently. Maybe it is because I'll be leaving this school year with things I wanted to say, left unsaid. Which made me think, can you even live without regrets? I know people say they want to live without regrets or they don't regret anything, and I just don't believe them. I mean you've never said something you wish you hadn't? I know I have and I still wish I could take things back. I still wish I had spoken up. There have been a couple of times when I wish I had said, "dude I like you." But the words never made it out. I've made mistakes, I've had embarrassing moments. And being human, I believe we all do. We all have had something happen we wish hadn't. I think in being human we can try to forget, but we tend to remember the worst rather than the best. I'm not saying don't try, but I just don't think it's possible. Maybe if we are told to live life without regrets at the age of 1-5 it would be drilled in so by the time we actually make decisions and do things, we won't live a life filled with regrets.
I am trying my hardest to work on creating a life without regrets. At least from this point on. I still regret things from my past. And I know for a while I'll regret not saying certain things I wanted to this year. Shyness, worry of rejection, and fear of being a joke tend to hold me back. Usually the shyness, and rejection are the main ones. I don't want to rock the boat and make things uncomfortable. I don't want things to change for the worse. I know that it isn't going to help me in the long run. I know I could be missing some great opportunities. It doesn't change the fact that these fears are crippling. I wonder if those who really try to live life without regret, feel like they are relapsing when something happens and they regret it. Do they shake it off and say everything happens for a reason? I know I can't just shake it off. I do believe things happen for a reason, but that doesn't mean you don't regret. I think for me living life to the fullest is more my motto. I try to experience life, even if I could regret it later. Or maybe its the same thing. Living life to the fullest and living without regrets. Because if you live your life to the fullest are you then not regretting because it was a life experience?
I know throughout my life, and my life continuing forward, there will be regrets. I regret not going to certain things. I regret transferring on some days. I regret certain things that come out of my mouth. I regret certain things that didn't come out of my mouth that should have. I regret my action and sometimes my lack of action. There are too many things that have happened in my life that could be regrets. Maybe the best thing to do is moving on from the regrets. Or maybe the best thing is to not let the fear of regretting it later stop you from action. I know I almost let the idea of I'd regret it in the morning stop me from going to Double Margarita Wednesday. In fact it was one of the best nights, and I had a lot of fun. I don't regret it. I could have said no, I'd regret going and feel guilty. But I pushed passed that. Maybe that is what people mean when they say, "live your life without regrets."
My parents have tried to drive home the idea of having a real college experience. I think it is finally working. I went to a concert tonight, when in the past I would have been too uncomfortable with myself and the situation to go. I'm glad I went. I am glad I've gone to different speaking occasions and different art shows. I am also going to be an RA. This will help others get their college experience while I do as well. So while I don't think I can live a life with no regrets, I do think I can live a life to the fullest.
From Idaho with Love, Molly
I am trying my hardest to work on creating a life without regrets. At least from this point on. I still regret things from my past. And I know for a while I'll regret not saying certain things I wanted to this year. Shyness, worry of rejection, and fear of being a joke tend to hold me back. Usually the shyness, and rejection are the main ones. I don't want to rock the boat and make things uncomfortable. I don't want things to change for the worse. I know that it isn't going to help me in the long run. I know I could be missing some great opportunities. It doesn't change the fact that these fears are crippling. I wonder if those who really try to live life without regret, feel like they are relapsing when something happens and they regret it. Do they shake it off and say everything happens for a reason? I know I can't just shake it off. I do believe things happen for a reason, but that doesn't mean you don't regret. I think for me living life to the fullest is more my motto. I try to experience life, even if I could regret it later. Or maybe its the same thing. Living life to the fullest and living without regrets. Because if you live your life to the fullest are you then not regretting because it was a life experience?
I know throughout my life, and my life continuing forward, there will be regrets. I regret not going to certain things. I regret transferring on some days. I regret certain things that come out of my mouth. I regret certain things that didn't come out of my mouth that should have. I regret my action and sometimes my lack of action. There are too many things that have happened in my life that could be regrets. Maybe the best thing to do is moving on from the regrets. Or maybe the best thing is to not let the fear of regretting it later stop you from action. I know I almost let the idea of I'd regret it in the morning stop me from going to Double Margarita Wednesday. In fact it was one of the best nights, and I had a lot of fun. I don't regret it. I could have said no, I'd regret going and feel guilty. But I pushed passed that. Maybe that is what people mean when they say, "live your life without regrets."
My parents have tried to drive home the idea of having a real college experience. I think it is finally working. I went to a concert tonight, when in the past I would have been too uncomfortable with myself and the situation to go. I'm glad I went. I am glad I've gone to different speaking occasions and different art shows. I am also going to be an RA. This will help others get their college experience while I do as well. So while I don't think I can live a life with no regrets, I do think I can live a life to the fullest.
From Idaho with Love, Molly
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